Hello and welcome to Dressed for My Day. While I’m not a professional stylist, I am a woman who knows how to do her research. So I may not always “get it right” with my own outfits. After all, I’m just a woman like you…doing her best to get dressed each day in a way that feels stylish but still authentic and comfortable. But I’ve done a little digging around and I’ve got a few tips to share to help us coordinate our outfits…without looking matchy-matchy. Ha!
I love getting blog post ideas or questions from my readers. These are the blog posts that I’m more confident will meet a real need. And I’ve received lots of requests for a post about how to look pulled together and coordinated without over doing it. You know that matchy-matchy look, right?
Well, first let’s understand that, to a degree, matchy-matchy is actually “in” right now. That is, it’s considered quite on trend to wear suits or matching coordinates, even matching joggers and sweatshirts or tops. But, as with most on-trend fashion, it actually takes a little finesse to pull that look off without looking, um, for lack of better words, dorky. Hahaha!
So while I’m all for wearing matching suit pants or skirts with jackets, let’s otherwise leave the “fashionable” matchy look to those who are a little more hip. Well, at least they’re more hip than me. And let’s instead perfect the seamlessly coordinated look that reads a little more effortless and casual…while it’s anything but in reality.
Tip #1 – Develop an eye for separates that “go together” without necessarily matching.
This first tip may seem a little lofty, but honestly there really is no substitute for just being a student of good style. I spend a lot of time looking at outfits coordinated by other bloggers, YouTubers, store stylists and magazine editors. But I don’t just look at them. I study them. I note the following things:
- what clothing separates they combined
- what prints and patterns they used
- what colors they paired or mixed
- what textures they combined
- what styling hacks they used
- what accessories they used, including jewelry, shoes, handbags, belts, scarves, hats, etc.
- what ornamentation they highlighted and how much of it they used in an outfit
I also look for what they didn’t do. Of course, I read and listen, too. But even when there’s no explanation, I truly study a lot of outfits and try to figure out what makes them work so well. And when I see something that doesn’t work, I study that, too.
It’s my hope that I provide study-worthy outfits for you here and at my YouTube channel. Like I said, I’m not a professional stylist, so it may be that I sometimes provide you with examples of how not to do it. Ha! But the key is simply taking the time to really note what’s going on in an outfit.
Tip #2 – If possible, try to use separates from a variety of retailers or brands when creating an outfit.
This is not a rule, okay? If you’ve been here long you know that I absolutely occasionally put together outfits completely from Talbots or J.Jill or Chico’s. But I also start to notice that I’m doing that (and try to stop) because I start seeing how my outfits are looking quite matchy-matchy in those instances.
In fact, this is always one of the challenges when I’m given an opportunity to produce a sponsored post for a brand. I’m so grateful for these sponsorships and choose them carefully, working only with brands I really believe in and enjoy wearing. But when I’m using only clothing and accessories from one brand it truly is a challenge to create more interesting outfits that don’t have that Garanimals look. Know what I mean? And I think some other influencers do a better job of it than I do. But I’m learning.
The photo above features an outfit completely from Chico’s. I love this outfit, but it definitely is identifiable as Chico’s. Wouldn’t you agree?
So the better option is to choose coordinates from a variety of brands when possible. In the photo below I remember intentionally choosing not to create a completely J.Jill outfit with my green J.Jill barn jacket. I combined the J.Jill barn jacket and scarf with jeans and a top from Everlane (quite a different style aesthetic). So yeah, work towards not just combining a variety of brands, but a variety of very different brands. Honestly, that’s quite a challenge, but it can push you to create more interesting outfits without looking matchy-matchy.
Tip #3 – Build a wardrobe of interchangeable separates in a tight color palette.
I know I must sound like a broken record when I go in this direction, but building a wardrobe that works for you is such a vital key, not only to creating less matchy-matchy outfits, but to creating outfits that reflect your personality. When you build an interchangeable wardrobe each piece you purchase will work seamlessly with so many others that are already hanging in your closet. In fact, you’ll be delightfully amazed at how well new pieces work with the older garments you already own.
Part of building that well-tuned wardrobe that works together so beautifully is having the necessary wardrobe essentials for that season. I think a lot of women try to bypass this step and then they fall into the habit of purchasing outfits rather than purchasing separates from which they can get more mileage. Wardrobe essentials are those basics like white, black and or navy t-shirts, classic black or other neutral colored pants, good jeans and a classic blazer or cardigan that fits your personal style aesthetic.
For instance, in the photo above my modern straight leg jeans, classic white blazer and neutral colored tote (no longer available) are all wardrobe essentials that do heavy duty in my spring closet. Because I have them I can create a new, interesting outfit like this one with just the addition of a graphic tee, without looking matchy-matchy.
If you’ve missed it somehow, check out my series Building a Wardrobe that Works for You. It provides step-by-step guides for creating a wardrobe that is versatile and interesting, but also reflects your personal style. You can also always access this series through the menu at the top of my blog under the FASHION tab.
Part two of that third tip is creating that wardrobe in “a tight color palette.” When you work with a narrowly defined color palette you’ll have a closet full of clothes in just a few neutrals and a few (3-5) signature colors. So you’ll be more prone to have, say, a blue blazer that works with the blue print dress you later bring into your closet (see photo above). That blue blazer with “go with” most any blue print dress without looking matchy-matchy. Get the concept?
I can’t tell you how much more effortless and enjoyable it really is to put together outfits from my closet now that I work with a much more defined color palette. Yeah, every once in a while it feels restrictive when I have to remind myself not to order, say, that orange blazer. But later on I’m always quite happy to have pieces that truly coordinate.
Tip #4 – Collect accessories, especially leather or faux leather ones, in the similar colors and tones.
I get so frustrated when I go to put a belt on and don’t have one in a shade of brown that works with my shoes. Now your belt and shoes and handbag do not have to match. In fact, that’s the whole reason many of my readers have requested this blog post. They want to know how to wear shoes, belt and handbag without them being exactly the same. The best advice I can give is simply to say they need to “go together” but not necessarily match.
In the photo above I’m wearing leather loafers from Everlane, a leather belt from Talbots (no longer available) and a leather trimmed canvas camera bag from J.Crew. I’m also wearing a brown leather watch strap from Nordgreen. So I know they can’t possibly be the exact same color of brown. But they are a similar tone of brown. And you can see that indeed the effect is pleasing. Imagine if I were wearing black leather loafers, a brown belt and carrying a taupe handbag. The coordinated leathers definitely lend a more elevated vibe to the outfit.
Without going into all the industry terms and definitions (because I’d be way over my head!), we can consider the tone of a color or hue generally to be warm or cool. I sometimes have a hard time telling if a brown or camel is cool or warm. You probably do, too. But if we’ll just ask ourselves if we see hints of orange or yellow (warm tones) in the color or hints of blue or purple (cool tones), we can get close enough for coordinating shoes, belts and handbags.
But you don’t necessarily have to even match leathers in intensity. Below I’ve carried my straw satchel with medium brown leather trim and I’ve worn a soft honey beige in my slide sandals.
You can also wear brown and black together. I do think that when you combine black and brown it’s a good idea to make sure it looks intentional. You can do this by repeating each hue somewhere else in your outfit, if possible. In the photo below I’m wearing my python print loafers, which are mostly dark brown and gold and a dark brown belt. But when I added my black trench and a black backpack the look still works because I have two brown elements and two black.
Oh, and about that belt. It’s reversible. Hey, that’s another good tip. Buy a reversible belt! I wear this one so often.
In the end I think I just eye-balled this look and decided it worked. So trust your eye…once you’ve developed it a bit.
Remember, when it comes to the “science of chic,” what translates to the eye as chic is effort. So I contend that as long as it looks like you’ve taken a little effort to choose your accessories carefully, you absolutely can look chic and pulled together. But don’t overthink this. Gone are the days when you needed to exactly match your shoes to your belt to your handbag. In fact, looking back at old movies, I’m not sure those days ever existed. I think maybe we just thought they did and we beat ourselves up over nothing. Ha!
Above I’m wearing a soft nude shade on my feet and carrying a creamy white handbag. They don’t match, but they go together. This is why it really is important to select your accessories carefully, not just buying colors you like, but thoughtfully adding to your wardrobe pieces that work together.
So the bottom line once again goes back to building a wardrobe. If you build into your wardrobe a selection – even if it’s small – of belts, shoes and handbags in similar tones of brown, nude and some black (if you wear black), then you’ll be ready to put together a coordinated look that is not matchy-matchy on the fly.
Tip #5 – Go with at least one “neutral” piece of jewelry in your outfit.
These days most jewelry brands and retailers produce coordinating jewelry that is not overly matchy. But, big but, if you wear all the pieces in a set of coordinating jewelry it absolutely will look matchy-matchy. And no one needs to hear that more than me. I’m the kind of gal who, when I find something I like, I want all of it there is to have. Ha! But I know that about myself and I do my best to constrain myself.
In the photo above I’m wearing a double strand necklace (similar concept) that you can actually take apart and wear separately. But it definitely counts as two coordinating necklaces. So I resisted the matching earrings and intentionally chose to wear what I consider to be a pair of “neutral” earrings with the necklaces.
But that doesn’t mean I never wear multiple pieces of a “set” of jewelry. If I like it, I wear it. I just try to balance it out by adding other pieces that are obviously not part of the set. There’s probably one out there, but I can’t find a photo right now of me wearing multiple pieces of the modern pearl jewelry that I love from Kendra Scott. See the necklace, bracelet and ring in the photo below. I do sometimes wear all of these together.
So I think the key when it comes to jewelry is to make sure you have some “neutral” earrings, necklaces and even bracelets, if you like, that can be worn with the more statement jewelry type pieces.
I just realized that I haven’t done a Spring & Summer Jewelry post, so I’ll try to get that one up next week. And if you have additional questions about how to wear jewelry so that it’s coordinated but not matchy-matchy, we can talk about those there.
Oh, one more thing. You absolutely can mix metals. It’s not something I do often, other than the fact that my wedding ring is silver toned. But the key to mixing metals are:
- If you’re going to wear multiple metals, wear at least two pieces of each.
- Your wedding band doesn’t count. Don’t worry about trying to match it.
- Adding a single piece of jewelry that contains multiple metal tones is a great way to anchor the mixture.
Bonus Tip – When you’re concerned that a look is becoming matchy-matchy, opt for a simple separate in a neutralizing color.
One of my biggest tricks for toning down a matchy-matchy look is changing out whatever top I’d originally chosen for a chambray shirt or basic white tee. Last year I wrote a post about How to Style Floral Pants so You Look Chic…Not Childish. I actually love this post and how it came together. I offered numerous ways to wear these floral pants from Talbots (last year). But this first look…
…definitely looks more matchy-matchy to me than the others simply because I’m wearing a t-shirt in the exact same color as what is in the pants. Of course, keep in mind that they’re both from Talbots, so tip #2… But when I wore the pants with a chambray shirt…
…the look is definitely pulled together, but not at all matchy-matchy. Same with the plain white t-shirt…
Those neutral classic pieces just have a way of toning down the matchy-matchy factor, sort of like the effect of adding a little salt to a recipe to meld the brighter flavors together. The same concept works with a classic white button up shirt, a denim jacket, solid black pants, nude pumps, etc. So not only do those pieces add versatility to your wardrobe, they give you a leveling tool to tone down the matchy-matchy effect.
Thanks so much for dropping in today. If you have other concerns about coordinating outfits that I didn’t address here, let me know. Maybe I can add that information at some point or do a part two post.
Have a great day! And let me know if you have additional questions or if this post answered any questions you’ve had.
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